The older you get, the more you realize age is only a number when it comes to your sex drive. Healthy men–and women–can enjoy sex well into their 70s, 80s, and beyond. But as we move through life, we often pick up some bad habits, and that includes bad habits in bed. You may think you’re a maverick in the sack, but are you making any of these common mistakes? Fixing them can add an extra layer of enjoyment to your activities in the bedroom.
1. You don’t start foreplay early enough.
Arousal isn’t as quick to occur in women as it is in men. For many women, it takes time to become aroused, but you can jump-start the timeline by giving her plenty of affection during the day. Hugging, kissing, holding hands and having fun together paves the way for imminent arousal and makes the sex more intimate and exciting when it happens. And when it’s time to get intimate, spend plenty of time getting her aroused. Taking your time can be more enjoyable for both of you.
2. You assume you know what she likes.
Some women, like some men, are shy about telling you what they like in bed. Rather than speaking up when things aren’t going well, many women will fake an orgasm. Instead of assuming you know what she likes, ask questions like, “Does this feel good?” or “What do you want me to do?”
3. You don’t linger.
When you find something that your partner enjoys, keep doing it. Many women complain that men move on to something else just as they’re starting to really warm up. Slow down and linger when your partner gets excited and return to the things you know work based on this feedback in the future.
4. You expect her to orgasm with intercourse.
According to ABC News, recent research shows that around 75 percent of women never reach orgasm through intercourse alone. Keep that in mind and offer extra stimulation with the help of sex toys or your hands.
5. You don’t know what turns your partner on.
Women enjoy being seduced, and it pays to know what turns her on. Maybe she likes flirting over drinks or exchanging racy texts. Letting her know often how irresistible you find her can help get her in the mood and trying new things can net you new strategies to put in your toolbox.
6. You don’t understand the anatomy of a clitoris.
Some men believe that the small “button” on the vagina is the whole clitoris, not realizing that its nerve endings spread throughout the vulva and vagina, leaving numerous possibilities for exploration and manipulation. Focusing on the button alone can get tiresome for many women, who may find it uncomfortable or painful after an extended period.
7. You finish too quickly.
Having an orgasm before she’s had time to enjoy herself is a major sexy-time mistake. How long sex should last is a personal preference, but it should last long enough to be pleasurable for both of you. If it doesn’t, make sure you finish her off before you head off to sleep.
8. You don’t cuddle afterwards.
Women are filled with a lot of emotions after sex, largely due to hormones like oxytocin that produce feelings of attachment and love. Spend a little time after sex kissing, cuddling, and talking.
9. You’ve let sex get predictable.
Sometimes, it’s necessary to shake things up a bit in the sack to keep it new and interesting. Try out new positions, toys, location, or foreplay activities. Pay attention to what she likes and put it in your arsenal for future romps.
10. You don’t manscape.
For some women keeping it tidy and trim down below makes oral sex much more enjoyable, and it can enhance your own pleasure as well. Get a professional wax or take to your thicket with scissors and a razor. She’ll may appreciate it, so it’s always a great idea to ask how she would like your hair.
11. You don’t take Predoxen.
For even better sex and improved performance in bed, a daily dose of Predoxen can go a long way toward increased stimulation and sensation, more energy between the sheets, harder erections, and a higher level of confidence. It can help you recover more quickly for multiple rounds, and it can beef up your size.
Good sex isn’t rocket science. It’s a matter of slowing down and remembering that it takes two to properly tango. Treat her in bed the way she wants to be treated, and you’ll end up having great sex often.